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Sometimes Surviving Is Enough: Setting the Bar at “Don’t Make It Worse”
There are moments when even basic functioning feels out of reach. And trying to push yourself into a place of thriving can actually make things worse.
Sometimes, the most compassionate thing you can do is to shift the goal entirely. Instead of trying to get better, what if the bar is just: don’t make it worse?
Vicarious Trauma: When Witnessing Pain Changes You
You don’t have to live through something directly for it to affect you deeply. Sometimes, simply witnessing someone else’s suffering can leave a lasting imprint. Whether it’s through your work, the news, or relationships, you may find yourself carrying pain that isn’t technically yours but still feels heavy.
The Myth of Forever: When Depression Makes You Feel Stuck for Good
One of the hardest things about being in a depressive episode is the way it distorts time. Depression doesn’t just make things feel bleak. It makes them feel endless. When you're in it, it can seem like you’ve always felt this way and that nothing will ever change.
That sense of permanence is a lie your brain is telling you. Even though it can feel incredibly convincing, it’s not the full story.
Feeling Like a Burden: The Guilt and Shame That Depression Brings Into Relationships
When you're living with depression, your internal world can feel heavy enough. But for many people, that weight gets compounded by a painful belief: I'm a burden to the people around me. This thought isn’t just uncomfortable. It can reshape how you relate to others, deepening isolation, guilt, and shame in ways that are often invisible from the outside.
If this resonates with you, you’re not alone. And the pattern isn’t your fault. There are reasons this shows up, and there are ways to shift it.