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When Closeness Feels Unsafe: Navigating Intimacy After Trauma
For many people who’ve experienced trauma, especially relational trauma, intimacy can feel threatening. Even if you long for connection, your body might pull away. You might shut down, lash out, or feel overwhelmed by closeness you thought you wanted.
This isn’t about being avoidant or damaged. It’s often a trauma response. And it makes sense.
The Overwhelm Loop: Managing Executive Dysfunction and Anxiety Spirals
You know you need to start. You stare at the task, the email, the calendar, the pile. But instead of doing the thing, your mind starts spinning. You feel pressure, dread, and maybe even shame. You try to will yourself into action, but instead you freeze, scroll, or walk away. And then the guilt kicks in.
Vicarious Trauma: When Witnessing Pain Changes You
You don’t have to live through something directly for it to affect you deeply. Sometimes, simply witnessing someone else’s suffering can leave a lasting imprint. Whether it’s through your work, the news, or relationships, you may find yourself carrying pain that isn’t technically yours but still feels heavy.
AuDHD 101: What It Means to Be Both Autistic and Have ADHD
If you’ve ever felt like your brain is doing everything at once and nothing at all, or like your sensitivity and restlessness are constantly at odds, you’re not imagining it. You might be navigating something called AuDHD, a term that describes the overlap between autism and ADHD.
When Your Work Becomes Your Identity: Anxiety and the Pressure to Always Perform
It can feel good to be someone who gets things done, who shows up, who cares about doing excellent work. But for many people, work doesn’t just stay in the workspace. It becomes something more consuming, such as a measure of worth, a coping strategy, and a fragile source of identity.
The Myth of Forever: When Depression Makes You Feel Stuck for Good
One of the hardest things about being in a depressive episode is the way it distorts time. Depression doesn’t just make things feel bleak. It makes them feel endless. When you're in it, it can seem like you’ve always felt this way and that nothing will ever change.
That sense of permanence is a lie your brain is telling you. Even though it can feel incredibly convincing, it’s not the full story.
Feeling Like a Burden: The Guilt and Shame That Depression Brings Into Relationships
When you're living with depression, your internal world can feel heavy enough. But for many people, that weight gets compounded by a painful belief: I'm a burden to the people around me. This thought isn’t just uncomfortable. It can reshape how you relate to others, deepening isolation, guilt, and shame in ways that are often invisible from the outside.
If this resonates with you, you’re not alone. And the pattern isn’t your fault. There are reasons this shows up, and there are ways to shift it.